Life Lessons

Late Night Tip.

Some of the biggest lessons of my life were never remotely taught in the classroom. You can’t teach life experience, you’ve got to live it✌🏽

Yes, this was the Facebook status I concocted upon getting home tonight…. but there’s more to the story.

On my drive home at 3am tonight, I began thinking about all the people I drove to the bars, from the bars, to house parties, to video game releases at midnight etc and my wheels began to turn.

Just a few weeks ago, I began driving for Lyft as a part-time gig. With grad school fastly approaching, a wedding to plan, life, etc, I thought, “Why the hell not?” Either I’m out and about, spending money I don’t need to spend at the moment or at home.

I’ve met people from all walks of life, mainly college age folks on these drives. We’ve discussed majors, minors, failed midterms, frat boy problems, literally a mix of everything. I always find myself saying things like “Don’t sweat the small stuff”,  “Enjoy your college years”, “You literally have the rest of your life to have a big girl or big boy job, seriously live it up”, etc. The moments after these exchanges I always question to myself, “When in the hell did I get so old?”

Truth be told, I’ve been in school on and off for the last 22 years. That’s a long fucking time. And frankly, I’m incredibly tired of going to school. Just in general. At this point you may be wondering, “well you should have just gone straight through”. Yeah okay. At a minimum, if you just go from Kindergarten to graduating with your bachelors degree, that’s 17 years. It’s longer if you add 2 years of preschool as well as any grad or post grad school. From there, then what? You work until you’re basically too old to enjoy your retirement. As a realist, bare with me, this will be most people. The classes I just finished to wrap up my undergrad, I’ve been physically doing those assignments in the workforce the past 5 years or so. Yet here I was, writing papers about nonexistent businesses, building up proposals and plans for a grade rather than actual pay like I had been accustom too. All for that little piece of paper (my bachelor’s degree).

Some days it feels as though we put too much stock in formal education and not enough it a little thing called life experience. (This is coming from the woman getting ready to go to grad school even.) Living in itself is learning. There’s so much to be learned from reading, from doing, from conversing with other people with different perspectives from you, from traveling, etc. There’s so much knowledge to be gained from little things known to be called life experiences. There’s so much to be learned from life itself outside the classroom, if we’re just receptive to all that surrounds us. Embrace it. You have your entire life ahead of you. Take time to explore and marvel, to learn and to grow. You’ll later come to find they were some of the best days of your life.

Renaissance Concourse Atlanta Airport Hotel- Atlanta, Georgia
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Learning The Difference Between Know & Known

It’s not always the ones who’ve known us the longest that have the best of intentions for us. Learn to let go of the stale, stagnant & sometimes toxic relationships you’ve kept over the years simply because you’ve “known” that person(s) forever. We all change, evolve, & grow in different facets throughout our lives, sometimes that includes apart.🤙🏽🤙🏽🤙🏽

Learn to appreciate the friendship/relationship you once had & relish in those memories to some degree even, but sometimes people we know are simply people we used to know and nothing more than that. Don’t force yourself to hold on to a “friendship” or “relationship” just because of the time invested. The time will pass away either way, learn what to value versus what to simply let go of.

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Caution There’s an Umbrella Involved.

Clearwater Beach, FL

…but only if you want it to be. Life is full of decisions. All of which lead us to where we are today. Some proceed life with caution. This is just as well as saying you’ll always have a huge Yield sign in front of your face. Others choose to make their own way, avoiding the safety net most seek, take bigger risks and therefore reap bigger rewards.

I know countless folks right now that hate the position they have and sometimes even the company they work for. What are you going to lose by putting yourself out there??? PTO time? You’ll always get it built back up. Health insurance? Honestly, most of it is for the birds anyway.  Look for something else…

Our parents generations were brought up to believe that once you found a stable position, to stay, work your way up, and play it safe. But honestly what does safe even mean? You could get fired, the business could go under, new managers could come in and revamp the place, there are so many factors that go into simply playing it safe.

A dear friend shared a quote today via Facebook that got me thinking about this whole topic.

“No amount of security is worth the suffering of a mediocre life chained to a routine that has killed your dreams.” – Maya Mendoza 

While your career should not be your entire life, it is a huge part of it. You should be able to wake up every day and look forward to the position that awaits you at work. There are a ton of positions out there. While I understand the desire to build a strong  & rather short resume in the process, do you really want to do it in an unhappy environment for a company you don’t care much for?

There are no limits in this world except for the ones you set for yourself day after day. Follow your arrow & make shit happen for yourself. Only you stand in your own way. You’ll enjoy your journey so much more on your own terms rather than simply playing it safe according to someone else’s🔥

Clearwater Beach, FL Coastline


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Necessities of Life

In the midst of cleaning the living room & kitchen for a family get together tonight, I spy Winston curled up in my fiance’s duffel bag just napping away. We could stand to learn so much from our pets.. all they desire is love, a little bit of nourishment & a place to lay to lay their head. We buy toys stacked on toys, holistic treats to spoil them a bit and accessories that sometimes have me thinking that I’m doing a bit too much. At the end of the day though, they love getting snuggled on the couch & their pettings the most. They’re happiest when they’re playing with some old box or household item rather than their toys.

It’s moments like these that have me question where my priorities have been and even where they are today. My heart has always been in the right place as has my intentions, but sometimes I get a little lost in translation though. I used to be a HUGE shopaholic and incredibly materialistic. I went to the mall/outlet malls pretty frequently and when I grew tired of that, online shopping became my new go-to. Eventually I broke that habit thankfully, but accumulated a lot of stuff during that time. At the end of the day, I never fathomed these things would bring me happiness and of course they didn’t. Needless to say, the older I get, the more I try to downsize. On the daily, I would easily trade all the things in the house (just about) for experiences, trips and memories made with the people I care most about.

All we really need day to day is a little love, nourishment to our bodies and a roof over our head. It never ceases to amaze me how our pets give us daily reminders to just how simple life can be.


Everything Else

Mind Strong. Body Strong.

As a woman who’s spent over half her life thicker than a snicker despite being a former athlete, I’ve tried almost every trend out there to lose/maintain weight. I’m talking everything except an eating disorder (not a joking matter, not to be taken as such). Beachbody, Visalus, Advocare, Atkins, low carb, all veggie, juicing, even doctor prescribed Phentermine a couple different times over the years just to name a few..

Want to know a secret???
They all work!!! Every single one of them with a bit of consistency.
When it came down to it, there was a variety of factors that contributed to my weight gain and loss over the years. It would take an entirely different blog post to get through them all…

The biggest reason it came down to was the mental part of it. My mentality wasn’t where I needed it to be and I was always losing weight or trying to get fit for the wrong reasons.

Once I worked on myself mentally and broke down the whys each time I went on this fitness journey and then tore down my inconsistencies on the way, I was able to make progress (still for that matter). Once I changed my outlook on this journey that should have simply been a lifestyle change, great things started happening. Physically, it hasn’t been immediate. It’s been small changes here and there. But that, in itself is progress.

  1. Find your why. This shouldn’t be for anyone, but you for you. Why did you gain the weight? What were some of the factors that caused it? Contrary to popular belief it’s not always eating garbage that causes. Sometimes it’s eating too much, too little, the wrong time of the day, inactivity. There’s so much more to it than that. How did you get to where you are? It may take some time, but once you start digging you will find it. To never get back to where you are, it’s important to find out how you got there to begin with.
  2. Get your mind right & your body will follow. The body will do whatever the mind tells it to, that’s for certain, but if you don’t get your mind right first, there’s no telling how long that will last.
  3. Find a form of fitness that works for you. I’m not a runner and I’ve never been a big fan. Boxing was my cardio for a number of years until I found excuses over time to get in the gym. Spin is now my happy place and I love every minute of it. But it’s not about me, what’s trending, what your friends are doing, etc. Try a little bit of everything to find what you enjoy.
  4. Whatever you do, choose moderation. Eating what you wish/choose, exercise, etc. That goes for everything and believe me I’m not very good at moderation either. I definitely feel like carbie most days, it happens.

You have one life and one body. Love yourself and your body every step along the way to a better you however YOU choose fit.

*Disclaimer: I’m not a fitness or health professional, these are just a few things I learned over the years, mostly the hard way.

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27 Realizations From a 27 Year Old Millennial For Every Twenty-Something

ferris wheel

Life goes ever so quickly. One minute you’re in participating in Jump Rope for Heart in elementary school next minute you’re eating Taco Bell after leaving Two Keys on a Thirsty Thursday (is that even still a thing??). The past two years have had their fair share of ups and their moments of downs as well. Over the years, these are the lessons I found to be most beneficial that I only wish I knew coming into my twenties.

The Punch Line

  1. There will come a day when you can no longer Hank It like you used too…. Even though I have been told over and over again that drinking is not a skill I refuse to believe it. In my extremely late teens to early twenties, Hanking It was a weekly tradition. That’s one shot of whiskey for every time Justin Moore sings Hank It. We used to do this several times per night, a couple nights in a row, especially during tailgating season. Just a few weeks ago, we took shots with water.
  2. Hangovers are a real thing apparently.. know your limits and know them well. By the time you reach your mid-late twenties, you’ll wake up feeling like a dazed and confused camel in the middle of the Sahara desert if you don’t  from the night before. As someone who’s always been able to handle their liquor (THANK YOU LIVER), it may be a hard concept to grasp, but the day will come and then you’ll know exactly what I am talking about.
  3. Nightlife will soon become your new favorite spectator event… You’ll have those moments when you go out for ladie’s night or just a night out with friends and you’ll find yourself people watching. At that moment, you’ll find yourself wondering if you ever acted like that or mortified at times saying that was never you… I assure you by all accounts you most likely have been there and done that. *sighs*


4.  You meet a lot of temporary people in your twenties. When it comes to friendships I never lacked in variety. I had several different groups of people I enjoyed hanging out with and I never limited myself in that regard. Looking back, most weren’t friends, they were acquaintances. The sooner you learn the difference, the better. Not everyone who smiles in your face is your friend. There are people that are around to feed the soil so to speak others are there to pick the fruit. If you’re lucky, you will make some lifelong friendships in the process though.

5. Not every friendship is a forever friendship. There are friends for a reason, friends for a season and everything in between. Life gets busy. People change. They change every day as do you, as do I. People get closer. People grow apart. Learn when to hold them and when to walk away. Friendships like any other relationship require time and attention. I’ve been thankful for those that I have had over the years that understood those things as I have with them. But it requires making an effort, people always find a way to make time for those they care about. It may be a text, phone call, quick coffee date, etc but they make time. If you find yourself drifting into separate directions, care enough to have the conversation, if it’s important to you. Ultimately, learn to walk away from the toxic ones in the process. Toxicity is never good, no matter the situation, No one needs that kind of negativity.

6. Is it too late now to say sorry?… The answer is always NO. Many say pride goes before the fall and that it does. Live and let go. People make mistakes. Making the same mistake, more than once then becomes a decision. Learn to admit when you are wrong even if the other person has a hard time doing so. Burned bridges are not the way to go. Yes, things happen. But if there’s anything I’ve learned in this regard, apologize and move on. You may not ever be friends again, let alone best friend status, but forgiveness is a powerful thing and the world needs more healing no matter how small or big the indiscretion.

7.  Find your tribe. Growing up, I remember my dad always asking me who I was hanging around, what their goals where, what they wanted to do with their lives, etc. I remember huffing and puffing that I was just having fun and that didn’t matter at the time. It always matters. You are the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Think of those 5 people, maybe more, maybe less and think about what you share in common. Is this a positive or negative influence on your life? It’s important to surround yourself with people that lift you higher and that you can do so in return as well. It may be with similar goals, lifestyles, interests, etc.

8. If you’re a friend, truly be a friend. Be the kind of person you need in your life. Treat them the way you wish to be treated. Never lose sight of that. Being a friend means being there for them, knowing that people are constantly evolving as are you and never passing judgement. I’m not Willy Wonka, but hey there’s a time and a place for everything. For people to say that words don’t hurt. Sometimes they do. I almost lost a near and dear friend to me once out of immaturity. My words were like daggers and not to mention what I had something to say on was none of my business. If I hadn’t been such a judgmental individual about it, maybe that person would have felt open to share. Thankfully it’s water under the bridge now, but that never should have happened.


9. Learn the difference between love & lust. Millennials… we’re the generation notorious for being the hook-up culture, moving on to quickly, and not knowing how to commit. I can only imagine what the grandchildren might say one day, “Papaw and Mamaw both swiped right and they lived happily ever after.” I’m sorry, what? Perhaps Tinder could work for some but I don’t imagine too many success stories coming from that. Now to say that you only love someone for what’s on the inside, I can’t entirely agree. You have to somewhat be attracted to them, at least a little. Lust says I can’t wait to sleep with you, love says I also can’t wait to wake up next to you the next day as well. Sleeping together does not mean that person loves you. Always keep that in mind that just because the chemistry is there doesn’t mean there’s anything else of substance. It takes a lot more than two good looking people with a great sex life to make a relationship last.

10. Timing is everything. There are so many variables that go into having a worthwhile relationship but I’ve met so many people that didn’t work out because of the timing due to one thing or another.

11. You cannot expect them to love you, if they don’t love themselves. You simply cannot expect someone to give something they don’t have. Nor can you expect them to truly be able to love you if they haven’t taken the time to love themselves first. Time heals, love heals, forgiveness heals but it all starts with yourself.

12. You can and most likely will fall in love more than once. As someone who is living proof of this, it’s totally possible. There are 2 billion people in the world, you honestly think there’s only one person ever that you’re supposed to love? Now, I’m not saying you won’t get lucky on the first go around and they won’t be the love of your life, but it’s highly likely that you will. So don’t give up hope, if you haven’t found the love of your life.

13. There are certain individuals that you will forever share a connection with even if they are no longer in your life. Remember that whole you can and most likely will fall in love more than once in your life? Yes, I’m talking about that. People get together. People break up. Sometimes you’re not good for them and sometimes vice versa. Sometimes the timing is off. Maybe one person or both wasn’t ready. Maybe you never even dated, which seems to happen more than we’d all like to admit with our generation. No matter the reason, sometimes you don’t get closure. Sometimes, it’s not a clean break. Life is not always black and white. Love, attraction, certain indescribable feelings and emotions don’t always go away. But people move on and that is a small part of the beauty of life. You’ll save yourself a ton of trouble by understanding that revisiting those individuals often solves nothing and it’s almost like re-reading one of your old favorite novels… you’re expecting a different outcome even though you already know the ending.

14. Relationship are meant to be in between the two people having it, no one elseAnd also the good Lord above in my case but often times people forget this. It’s about what their parents want, what their friends think, what society seems to deem just, etc. Social media hasn’t helped in this regard. I see WAY too much get posted about daily from getting together, to breaking up to getting back together. And unfortunately in my late teens til I was maybe 21, this was me too. Every time Facebook Memories pops up with something I posted between 6-9 years ago, I cringe, read and delete it. Oversharing is not caring and is not a good look. Not everyone needs to know your business and contrary to popular belief, most don’t give a shit about it to begin with, they just want to know to know.

15. There’s no such thing as the perfect partner, but don’t settle just to say you have someone. Every one has their quirks, it’s about knowing what you can live with versus what you cannot. There may be no such thing as the perfect partner but two very imperfect people can workout beautifully. In the same token, don’t waste your time or the person you’re with if you don’t want to be with them for the sake of not being alone.

16. Move at your own pace, not what society has deemed the norm. Ever dreamed of the perfect house, in the perfect neighborhood, with the 4 kids, perfect husband, a station wagon and the white picket fence? No? Me neither. Partially because it’s not the 1950’s anymore and partially because I haven’t. My boyfriend and I have been together 4 years in August. I’m one of the last of the mohicans as far as no spouse, no children and no fur-babies. This still doesn’t deter me from being happy where I am. If you want all of those things, right here and right now, I’m also screaming kudos to you as well. At the end of the day not everyone has the same ideals or goals as everyone else, let alone same timeline. Go at your own pace and take your time. It’s not a race and there are no trophies once all of those items are completed.


17. Your parents only want what’s best for you. No, my mother and grandmother didn’t want my 18-year-old self back in the day to be out on a Friday night and they would call anywhere from 40-56 times during the course of an evening to prove their point. My father always encouraged school before everything because education was believed to be the foundation to a successful career. You may question their methods/wonder if they were ever your age no matter what age you are, but in their eyes, you’ll never not be their child and they only want better for you than what they had themselves. They only wish to teach you the lessons they learned in their life so you don’t have to make the same mistakes they did.

18. You may be getting older but your parents and grandparents are too. Make time for them as they did for you. The older I get, one of the things I truly regret is how I could have better spent some of my time and more of it would be with them. Thankfully, I have made much more of an effort to do so these past several years but my early twenties was much less than I would have liked to.


19. Build a career around what you love. Life is too short to spend a big bulk of your week, every week, for multiple years doing something your heart is not in. Sounds cliche’ maybe but follow your arrow and you’ll never regret it. You’ll never wish spending too much time doing something you don’t enjoy. Pursue something that sets your soul ablaze.

20. Find a work-life balance that works for youThe saying goes a little something like, “Don’t get so busy making a living, you forget to make a life.” Only you know the balance that will work for you but believe me time goes faster than you think and there’s nothing worse than looking up from the grind to realize you just blinked away a decent portion of your life.

21. Know the value in knowing your value. Embrace what you bring to the table and ask for what you desire within reason. If you don’t ask, the answer will always be no. Understand there will be companies you work for along the way that may not be where you stay but that may be the stepping stone that gets you to the next level. In the same regard, do not fear leaving a position you have outgrown or no longer have the heart for. It may take time to find that new position willing to give you an opportunity to prove your value, but it will be worth it in the end.


22. Forgive yourself & others throughout your life. We’ve all fallen down. We’ve all made mistakes. Just as you might ask God or the person you wronged to forgive you, you must forgive yourself as well. And then truly let it go. Holding onto yesterday’s regret does nothing but provide a negative in your life. Same goes for forgiving others as well.

23. Do your best but don’t be so hard on yourself. Being as ambitious and driven (and overly competitive to be completely honest) as I have been it’s often hard for me to relax no matter how much I’ve accomplished in a day or week or year and God forbid if I don’t measure up to something I thought I would for myself. I am my own worst critic. I have issues with moderation. I’m either balls to the wall or I have nothing for it at all. This is something I have been working on for some time because I often give my all into something until I get burned out. Learn to rest so you don’t quit and move on to something else. There’s no prize for finishing everything in one day. Because then what? You’ll find yourself right back where you started with a new goal or initiative. Set a pace for yourself and go for it, not at anyone else’s.

24. Accept people where they are, as they are, for who they are. The world is full of differences. Being judgmental and close-minded never got anyone anywhere. Be kind always, you never know what their life has been like or what struggles they are facing.

25. Be the change. Often I used to wonder how I, in small town Kentucky can make a difference. It’s a ripple effect. Set an example. Find a community cause or council and serve, give back. Be a voice. It all started with me though. Your thoughts become your words and those eventually become your actions. Follow your arrow and find your purpose. It’s not enough to talk about it, take action and follow through. Working in the automotive industry, there was a great deal of stigma around it as a whole. It was my mission to change that perception, one customer at a time. Over 3 years time, I succeeded at this. It wasn’t about just making a sale, it was about providing great service and finding the right vehicle for the person I was serving. Leading by example, that incites change. Most recently, I joined the Junior League of Lexington and I only regret not joining sooner. The amount of opportunities to serve and give back to the community are unreal and they are everywhere. Start in your own backyard (so to speak). Do what you can, where you can.

26. Never take the time you have for granted. Tomorrow is never promised and we often take that for granted until someone we love has something happen to them. Don’t wait til then to wake up and start living. Someday isn’t a day of the week and sometimes that day never comes. Say what you need to say, do what you need to do. Live your life to the best of your ability within your means.

Cherry On Top

27. Stay unapologetically true to yourself. In a world full of fads and a media that praises trends made famous by celebrities, it may seem hard to resist at times.  Social media tends to have a habit of creating an image of people’s lives when in reality people only post or share what they want you to see. People are like onions, in the retrospect that they have layers and lots of them. Often what you see hardly scratches the surface. In a world of full of conformity, take the road less traveled. There’s no need to go around pretending to be someone you aren’t. It’s human nature to want to belong and essentially fit in, but by being yourself, you will attract the people that are right for your tribe. At the end of the day, you have to live with the person that you are, no one else.

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Kenny Rogers once sang you gotta know when to hold them, fold them, walk away and quickly speed walk away as well. (Okay so I said the last part because I’ll be damned if I’m running😊)

With that being said, always be fearless in the pursuit of what sets your souls on fire & if it’s not doing just that, have the courage to start over. It’s not inadequate to give something all you’ve got and decide it’s not for you. Life is far too short to let anything be satisfied in mediocrity. The only limitations that truly exist are the ones in the walls of your mind, if you break those bad boys down you can accomplish anything you set your mind to.

Know your value and never let anyone else but you determine that.🔥✌🏽🤘🏽