Everything Else

The Plug.


On this colder than I’d like it to be, somewhat rainy day, I went to take a break from writing one of my last undergrad papers.  As I put down my laptop, I go to pick up my IPhone. Of course I did the typical scroll through Facebook and Instagram until it occurred to me how seldom it is for me to unplug.

Earlier year I was uber proud of myself for deleting my Pinterest, Twitter and Snapchat. I had made myself a promise to limit my social media intake but I was still logging on more than I was logging off just on less social media outlets. Ultimately, I came back to Snapchat (for the filters- I’m not even going to act like I don’t like them) for a time and then deleted it again and created a new Twitter to be able to connect my blog to the hashtag-loving Twitter world. It’s crazy to think about how much time we spend on our phones, like absolutely insane. But it happens. Whether you’re spending hours watching videos on YouTube, pinning items to your Pinterest boards, or tweeting on Twitter up a storm, social media is always available…literally always. Originally created to connect the world more closely (which I’d like to think has happened in many ways), it has also very much disconnected us as well. Going out to restaurants, you see more couples than not on their phone (we’re guilty of it too). On vacation, you see most everyone glued to their phones as phones have taken the place of cameras obviously but still with folks primarily posting then and there (again, guilty of this too). Remember the days of using the camera on your trips then coming home and uploading them the old-fashion way through the computer? I hardly do myself, but it definitely used to be the norm.

For instance, one of the major reasons I left my sales position in automotive was due to this…NOT BEING ABLE TO PUT THE PHONE DOWN. It’s easier than it used to be, it’s not my only livelihood working wise as I once thought it was. While this past year has been much better in regards to not staying as plugged in, this is something I’ve had to work on. It’s like any other habit to be frank.

Over the past year, I feel as though I have grown a bit, simply by putting my phone down and being more present in the moment. Whether that be by not posting on Instagram as much to not checking in on Yelp or Facebook, I’ve worked at putting the phone down more than merely picking it up.

Staying plugged in may be the new social norm, but you’re more often than not missing the plug on what’s going on around you in the process.

How do you decide to stay plugged in versus not throughout your week?

I would love to hear some feedback on this topic.

P.S.- This was meant to be posted a month ago, but I got sidetracked, most likely by being too plugged in….if that tells you anything.

Life Lessons

Late Night Tip.

Some of the biggest lessons of my life were never remotely taught in the classroom. You can’t teach life experience, you’ve got to live it✌🏽

Yes, this was the Facebook status I concocted upon getting home tonight…. but there’s more to the story.

On my drive home at 3am tonight, I began thinking about all the people I drove to the bars, from the bars, to house parties, to video game releases at midnight etc and my wheels began to turn.

Just a few weeks ago, I began driving for Lyft as a part-time gig. With grad school fastly approaching, a wedding to plan, life, etc, I thought, “Why the hell not?” Either I’m out and about, spending money I don’t need to spend at the moment or at home.

I’ve met people from all walks of life, mainly college age folks on these drives. We’ve discussed majors, minors, failed midterms, frat boy problems, literally a mix of everything. I always find myself saying things like “Don’t sweat the small stuff”,  “Enjoy your college years”, “You literally have the rest of your life to have a big girl or big boy job, seriously live it up”, etc. The moments after these exchanges I always question to myself, “When in the hell did I get so old?”

Truth be told, I’ve been in school on and off for the last 22 years. That’s a long fucking time. And frankly, I’m incredibly tired of going to school. Just in general. At this point you may be wondering, “well you should have just gone straight through”. Yeah okay. At a minimum, if you just go from Kindergarten to graduating with your bachelors degree, that’s 17 years. It’s longer if you add 2 years of preschool as well as any grad or post grad school. From there, then what? You work until you’re basically too old to enjoy your retirement. As a realist, bare with me, this will be most people. The classes I just finished to wrap up my undergrad, I’ve been physically doing those assignments in the workforce the past 5 years or so. Yet here I was, writing papers about nonexistent businesses, building up proposals and plans for a grade rather than actual pay like I had been accustom too. All for that little piece of paper (my bachelor’s degree).

Some days it feels as though we put too much stock in formal education and not enough it a little thing called life experience. (This is coming from the woman getting ready to go to grad school even.) Living in itself is learning. There’s so much to be learned from reading, from doing, from conversing with other people with different perspectives from you, from traveling, etc. There’s so much knowledge to be gained from little things known to be called life experiences. There’s so much to be learned from life itself outside the classroom, if we’re just receptive to all that surrounds us. Embrace it. You have your entire life ahead of you. Take time to explore and marvel, to learn and to grow. You’ll later come to find they were some of the best days of your life.

Renaissance Concourse Atlanta Airport Hotel- Atlanta, Georgia
Life Lessons

Learning The Difference Between Know & Known

It’s not always the ones who’ve known us the longest that have the best of intentions for us. Learn to let go of the stale, stagnant & sometimes toxic relationships you’ve kept over the years simply because you’ve “known” that person(s) forever. We all change, evolve, & grow in different facets throughout our lives, sometimes that includes apart.🤙🏽🤙🏽🤙🏽

Learn to appreciate the friendship/relationship you once had & relish in those memories to some degree even, but sometimes people we know are simply people we used to know and nothing more than that. Don’t force yourself to hold on to a “friendship” or “relationship” just because of the time invested. The time will pass away either way, learn what to value versus what to simply let go of.

Life Lessons

Caution There’s an Umbrella Involved.

Clearwater Beach, FL

…but only if you want it to be. Life is full of decisions. All of which lead us to where we are today. Some proceed life with caution. This is just as well as saying you’ll always have a huge Yield sign in front of your face. Others choose to make their own way, avoiding the safety net most seek, take bigger risks and therefore reap bigger rewards.

I know countless folks right now that hate the position they have and sometimes even the company they work for. What are you going to lose by putting yourself out there??? PTO time? You’ll always get it built back up. Health insurance? Honestly, most of it is for the birds anyway.  Look for something else…

Our parents generations were brought up to believe that once you found a stable position, to stay, work your way up, and play it safe. But honestly what does safe even mean? You could get fired, the business could go under, new managers could come in and revamp the place, there are so many factors that go into simply playing it safe.

A dear friend shared a quote today via Facebook that got me thinking about this whole topic.

“No amount of security is worth the suffering of a mediocre life chained to a routine that has killed your dreams.” – Maya Mendoza 

While your career should not be your entire life, it is a huge part of it. You should be able to wake up every day and look forward to the position that awaits you at work. There are a ton of positions out there. While I understand the desire to build a strong  & rather short resume in the process, do you really want to do it in an unhappy environment for a company you don’t care much for?

There are no limits in this world except for the ones you set for yourself day after day. Follow your arrow & make shit happen for yourself. Only you stand in your own way. You’ll enjoy your journey so much more on your own terms rather than simply playing it safe according to someone else’s🔥

Clearwater Beach, FL Coastline


Life Lessons

Necessities of Life

In the midst of cleaning the living room & kitchen for a family get together tonight, I spy Winston curled up in my fiance’s duffel bag just napping away. We could stand to learn so much from our pets.. all they desire is love, a little bit of nourishment & a place to lay to lay their head. We buy toys stacked on toys, holistic treats to spoil them a bit and accessories that sometimes have me thinking that I’m doing a bit too much. At the end of the day though, they love getting snuggled on the couch & their pettings the most. They’re happiest when they’re playing with some old box or household item rather than their toys.

It’s moments like these that have me question where my priorities have been and even where they are today. My heart has always been in the right place as has my intentions, but sometimes I get a little lost in translation though. I used to be a HUGE shopaholic and incredibly materialistic. I went to the mall/outlet malls pretty frequently and when I grew tired of that, online shopping became my new go-to. Eventually I broke that habit thankfully, but accumulated a lot of stuff during that time. At the end of the day, I never fathomed these things would bring me happiness and of course they didn’t. Needless to say, the older I get, the more I try to downsize. On the daily, I would easily trade all the things in the house (just about) for experiences, trips and memories made with the people I care most about.

All we really need day to day is a little love, nourishment to our bodies and a roof over our head. It never ceases to amaze me how our pets give us daily reminders to just how simple life can be.


Everything Else

Mind Strong. Body Strong.

As a woman who’s spent over half her life thicker than a snicker despite being a former athlete, I’ve tried almost every trend out there to lose/maintain weight. I’m talking everything except an eating disorder (not a joking matter, not to be taken as such). Beachbody, Visalus, Advocare, Atkins, low carb, all veggie, juicing, even doctor prescribed Phentermine a couple different times over the years just to name a few..

Want to know a secret???
They all work!!! Every single one of them with a bit of consistency.
When it came down to it, there was a variety of factors that contributed to my weight gain and loss over the years. It would take an entirely different blog post to get through them all…

The biggest reason it came down to was the mental part of it. My mentality wasn’t where I needed it to be and I was always losing weight or trying to get fit for the wrong reasons.

Once I worked on myself mentally and broke down the whys each time I went on this fitness journey and then tore down my inconsistencies on the way, I was able to make progress (still for that matter). Once I changed my outlook on this journey that should have simply been a lifestyle change, great things started happening. Physically, it hasn’t been immediate. It’s been small changes here and there. But that, in itself is progress.

  1. Find your why. This shouldn’t be for anyone, but you for you. Why did you gain the weight? What were some of the factors that caused it? Contrary to popular belief it’s not always eating garbage that causes. Sometimes it’s eating too much, too little, the wrong time of the day, inactivity. There’s so much more to it than that. How did you get to where you are? It may take some time, but once you start digging you will find it. To never get back to where you are, it’s important to find out how you got there to begin with.
  2. Get your mind right & your body will follow. The body will do whatever the mind tells it to, that’s for certain, but if you don’t get your mind right first, there’s no telling how long that will last.
  3. Find a form of fitness that works for you. I’m not a runner and I’ve never been a big fan. Boxing was my cardio for a number of years until I found excuses over time to get in the gym. Spin is now my happy place and I love every minute of it. But it’s not about me, what’s trending, what your friends are doing, etc. Try a little bit of everything to find what you enjoy.
  4. Whatever you do, choose moderation. Eating what you wish/choose, exercise, etc. That goes for everything and believe me I’m not very good at moderation either. I definitely feel like carbie most days, it happens.

You have one life and one body. Love yourself and your body every step along the way to a better you however YOU choose fit.

*Disclaimer: I’m not a fitness or health professional, these are just a few things I learned over the years, mostly the hard way.

Everything Else

  Everything Zen.

My happy place is a dark place. A place where the lights flicker on & off for anywhere from 45-60 minutes. A place where I can leave everything at the door. That’s right… the good, the bad, the uncertain… all at the door. A place where I can open my mind, inhale goodness, exhale the The extremities that can make their way into our lives from time to time. A place where I can get completely in my zone, when I’m typically trying to live beyond it, with over 25 other people doing the same thing in their own way. This place is spin..

CycleYou Lexington
For the obvious reason of high intensity cardio aside, considering I loathe running with a passion, I give it all I’ve got for almost an hour. I work to beat the woman I was yesterday. It’s intense, it’s non-stop from start to finish, it’s like certain moments in our life. And when it’s over, I am at complete peace with myself. I feel centered. I feel zen.

As it is with life, it’s your time, it’s your ride…. and this is mine. 

CycleBar at The Summit at Fritz Farm